英语美文观赏：若何让本身看起来更自傲？

　　There are lots of ways to improve your self-confidence over the long-term – but sometimes you need an instant boost. You can’t walk into an important work meeting, (or a class at college or a room full of strangers at a party) whilst frantically re-reading a self-help manual, or making a last-minute phone call to your life-coach. So here are ten secrets to boosting your self-confidence in just a few seconds…

　　在一段永劫候内，用来晋升自傲的体例有很多种——可是，偶然候咱们却须要一种立即的鼓动勉励。信任，谁也不能够或许或许或许在慌忙地再次浏览一本自助手册，或给你的糊口导师通完德律风以后就可以够或许或许或许顿时决议信心实足地投入一个主要的任务集会，或起头大学课程或参与一个满是素不领会之人的集会。以是，下面就为大师先容在数秒钟以内激起自傲的10个法门......

　　1. Smile

　　The one-second tip for when you’re feeling nervous and unconfident is simply to smile! You don’t just smile because you are happy and confident – you can smile to make yourself feel better. The act of smiling is so strongly associated with positive feelings that it’s almost impossible to feel bad while smiling.

　　Smiling is much more then just a facial expression. The simple act of smiling releases feel-good endorphins, improves circulation to the face, makes you feel good about yourself in general and can definitely increase your self confidence. … you will also appear more confident to others while you’re smiling.

　　法门之一: 浅笑

　　在你感应焦炙不安、贫乏决议信心之时，使你马上挣脱的法门是——很是简略——浅笑!咱们不但在心中布满欢快和自傲的时辰能力够或许浅笑——咱们也能够或许或许用浅笑来让本身感受好一些。浅笑这一步履与正面自动的感情如斯慎密地接洽在一路,以是当你浅笑时，你感受懊丧的概率微缺乏道。

　　浅笑毫不仅仅只是一种通俗的脸部心情。浅笑，这一简略的脸部心情，能够或许或许开释令人感应不错的内啡肽，能够或许或许加强脸部血液轮回，能够或许或许让你感受本身满身顺畅，固然也就可以够或许或许或许晋升你的自傲......以是，当你浅笑的时辰，在别人眼里你就会更显得自傲。

　　2. Make eye contact

　　As well as smiling, meet the eyes of other people in the room. Give them your smile; you’ll almost certainly get one back, and being smiled at is a great self-confidence boost. Like smiling, eye contact shows people that you’re confident. Staring at your shoes or at the table reinforces your feelings of self-doubt and shyness. This tip is particularly useful for work-related situations – make eye contact with interviewers, or with the audience for your presentation:

　　Eye contact helps take the fear away from the speaker by getting the audience closer to him. Stress is mainly a result of being with the unknown and uncontrollable. Eye contact gives the speaker a picture of the reality that is the audience. It also helps in getting the attention of the audience.

　　法门之二: 对峙眼光打仗

　　像对峙浅笑一样，你还须要对峙与房间内的其余人都有眼光打仗。先对别人浅笑，几近总会有人回应你的浅笑，如许的回应就会鼓动勉励你的自傲。浅笑与眼光打仗一样，都标明你是个自傲的人。相反，一味地盯着本身的鞋子或桌子则会让你显得加倍贫乏自傲乃至害臊。这一条法门在任务相干的场所相称适用——求职者要与口试官对峙眼光打仗，产物推介者则要与你的受众对峙眼光打仗。

　　对峙眼光打仗能够或许或许拉近听众与报告者之间的间隔，从而使他们挣脱严重的氛围。而严重则常常是由于报告者面临素不领会的人或没法掌控的情势而产生的。眼光的打仗则能够或许或许为报告者供给受众的实在面孔——对方只是听众罢了。同时,眼光的打仗还无益于吸收观众的注重力。

　　3. Change your inner voice

　　Most of us have a critical inner voice that tells us we’re stupid, not good enough, that we’re too fat, thin, loud, quiet… Being able to change that inner voice is key to feeling self-confident on the inside, which will help you project your confidence to the world. Make your inner voice a supportive friend who knows you fully but also recognizes your talents and gifts, and wants you to make the best of yourself.

　　You still want to be able to hear the message, so don’t make it so chilled and laid back that you never take any notice of it. You can even choose 2, 3 or as many voices as you want for different occasions. Your voice should always support you, always be helpful, never aggressive and it never puts you down.

　　法门之三: 转变你心中收回的声响

　　大大都人的心里都有如许一种声响，阿谁声响告知咱们:咱们太蠢了、不够优异、咱们太胖了、太瘦了、声响太大了、声响太小了......转变咱们心中的声响才是使本身从心里感应自傲起来的关头，这也一样有助于咱们向众人展现本身的自傲。要学会节制本身心中的声响，使其成为完整领会本身并同时承认你本身的能力及先天的一个伴侣，这个伴侣但愿你到达本身的最好状况。

　　固然，如许的声响你也必须要听出来，随之产生反应。以是，不要使其过于麻痹或悲观，对此漠然置之。你乃至能够或许或许按照差别的场所，挑选两三句乃至更多的发自心里话语。可是这些声响都必须悲观自动、于你无益，永远不会使你过分自傲，也不会使你悲观沮丧。

　　4. Forget other people’s standards

　　Whatever the situation that’s causing you a crisis of self-confidence, you can help yourself immeasurably by holding yourself to your own standards alone. Other people have different values from you, and however hard you try, you’ll never please everyone all of the time. Don’t worry that people will think you’re too overweight, underweight, too feckless, too boring, too frugal, too frivolous … hold yourself to your standards, not some imagined standards belonging to others. And remember that commonly-held values and standards vary from society to society: you don’t have to accept them just because the people around you do.

　　People’s values define what they want personally, but morals define what the society around those people want for them. Certain behaviors are considered to be desirable by a given society, while others are considered to be undesirable. For the most part, however, morals are not written in stone, or proclaimed by God above, but instead reflect local sensibilities. Different societies have different ideas about what is acceptable and not acceptable.

　　法门之四: 抛开别人代价认定规范

　　不论是甚么环境所致使的自傲危急，你都能够或许或许停止最大限制的自我调理，体例是——对峙本身所认定的代价规范。人与人的代价观是差别的，不论咱们怎样尽力，都不能够或许永远媚谄身旁的每一小我。对别人的设法，诸如——别人会以为咱们过于胖了、过于瘦了、太薄弱虚弱了、太败兴了、太俭仆了、太轻浮了等等，你底子不用太在乎，对峙本身所认定的代价规范，而不是设想当中别人所认定的代价规范。并且，务必服膺，公共以是为的代价观和规范会跟着社会的转变而转变:咱们完整不须要由于本身四周公家所作所为而自愿接管他们的代价规范。

　　人们的代价观清晰地说了然他们本身想要些甚么，而品德规范则清晰地说了然这些人所构成的社会想要些甚么。某些步履是能够或许或许或许被一个特定社会所接管的，而某些步履则不被接管。可是，从很大水平下去说，品德规范不是铭记于石头下面的，也不是拜天主所赐，而是本地民情的反应。差别的社会对所能够或许或许接管的步履所持的概念也差别。

　　5. Make the most of your appearance

　　Even if you’ve only got a minute or two, duck into the bathroom to make sure you’re looking your best. Brushing your hair, giving your face a good wash, retouching your makeup, straightening your collar, checking you’ve not got a bit of parsley stuck between your teeth … all of these can make the difference between feeling confident in your physical appearance and feeling anxious about an imagined flaw.

　　Perfect your physical appearance: There’s no denying that one’s grooming plays a crucial role in building confidence. Although we know what’s on the inside is what truly counts, your physical appearance will be the first to create an impression.

　　法门之五: 显现你最好的仪表

　　哪怕只要一两分钟的残剩时辰，也要冲进盥洗室里停止服装，以确保本身仪表最好。梳梳头、洗洗脸、补补妆、拉拉衣领，查抄一下是不是有香芹残存在本身的牙缝中......这些简略举措都将消弭你对猜测的缺乏的地方的'忧愁，而使本身在穿着面貌上看起来加倍自傲。

　　改良你的仪态仪表:毫无疑难，穿着服装在成立自傲的进程中起着决议性感化。虽然大家都晓得，内涵美才是最主要的，但也无可否定，内在穿着服装是给人留下深入印象的第一因素。

　　6. Pray or meditate briefly

　　If you believe in a higher power, whether God, or another spiritual force, it can be a real boost to self-confidence to say a silent prayer. (You could also meditate instead of praying.) This helps you to take a step back from your immediate situation, to see the wider picture and to seek help from something or someone greater than yourself. This is a Christian prayer, but you could write something similar that fits your own religious beliefs or spiritual tradition:

　　Dear God, thank you that you love and accept me as I am … please help me to do the same … and help me to grow to become the person you want me to be so that my God-confidence and self-confidence will increase greatly—all for the glory of your name and not mine. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Amen.

　　法门之六: 作长久的祷告或寻思

　　若是你崇奉神灵，不论是天主，或是其余精力气力，那末，冷静地作祷告就可以够或许或许成为鼓动勉励自傲的一种有用手腕。(你也能够或许或许用寻思来取代冷静祷告。)这将使咱们临时加入以后所处的环境，看得更高更远，并向那些比咱们本身庞大的神灵追求赞助。下面是一个基督教徒的祷告词，咱们能够或许或许参考并写出近似的合适你本身宗教信心或精力指引的祷告:

　　敬爱的天主，感激你对我的爱和容纳......请赞助我，使我爱您并且投入您的度量......请赞助我，让我成为您所希冀的阿谁人，使我大大晋升对您的崇奉及我的自傲——统统光荣均属于您的名下，我不会叨光。感激您的凝听，感激您回应我的祷告。但愿这个祷告能完成。

　　7. Reframe

　　If something unexpected happens, it’s easy to let it knock your fledgling self-confidence. Perhaps you spill your drink on someone, you arrive late for the big meeting because of traffic problems, or someone who you wanted to speak to gives you a cold brush-off. Try to “reframe” the situation; put it in the best possible light: often, events are only negative because of the meaning we attach to them.

　　法门之七: 换个角度看题目

　　若是成心外产生，常常很轻易就可以将你方才成立的少量自傲击碎。你能够或许不谨慎将饮料溅到别人身上，你能够或许由于交通梗塞而致使在主要集会上早退，或你想要与之扳谈的或人冷酷地对付你等等。试着“换个角度”看题目;往最好的一面去想: 凡是，事物之以是具备负面意义完满是由于咱们把本身的客观思惟强加在下面。

　　8. Find the next step

　　Keep your self-confidence up by taking gradual steps forwards, rather than freezing when faced with what seems like a giant leap. If you’re not sure what to do, look for one simple step that you can take to make progress. That might mean making eye contact at a party, introducing yourself to a stranger, breaking the ice in a meeting, or asking a question of your interviewers that shows your knowledge of their industry and company.

　　Start taking action even if you don’t have a clear idea of what needs to be done. Start moving towards your goal. Make corrections later.

　　法门之八:步步为营

　　经由过程步步为营的体例来加强自傲，要远胜于面临庞大边界而障碍不前。若是你所处的环境让你不知何去何从，没关系从简略地一步步做起。这就可以够或许象征着是，在集会上与别人做眼光打仗、把本身先容给一个目生人、突破集会僵局，或是问口试官一个题目，标明你领会他们所处的行业及公司。

　　在还不清晰事实须要做些甚么时，就起头睁开步履，起头朝着本身的方针进步，即便犯了错，迟些改正也不晚。

　　9. Speak slowly

　　An easy tip for both seeming and being more self-confidence is to speak slowly. If you gabble, you’ll end up feeling worse as you know you’re being unclear to your audience or to the person you’re in a conversation with. Speaking slowly gives you the chance to think about what you’re going to say next. If you’re giving a talk or presentation, pause at the end of phrases and sentences to help your audience take in what you’ve said.

　　A person in authority, with authority, speaks slowly. It shows confidence. A person who feels that he isn’t worth listening to will speak quickly, because he doesn’t want to keep others waiting on something not worthy of listening to.

　　法门之九: 加快措辞的速率

　　看起来显得比拟自傲或成为一个加倍自傲的人，一个简略的法门便是加快语速。若是老是喋喋不断说个不停，那末你的听众或与你扳谈的人就会感受你想抒发的意义让人搞不清晰。加快语速，你就无机遇思虑接上去要说的内容。若是你正在发言或做推介，那末就请在短语或句子竣事以后稍作搁浅，让听众偶然候对你所讲的内容停止消化懂得。

　　权势巨子人士和代表权势巨子部分发言的人，常常语速比拟慢。这申明他们很自傲。一个感受本身所讲的话不值得听的人，常常措辞如同放构造枪普通快，由于他不想让人们为不主要的发言华侈时辰。

　　10. Contribute something

　　Have you ever sat through an entire class at college or meeting at work without saying a word? Have you had an evening out where friends chatted happily while you sat and stared silently at your drink? Chances are, you weren’t feeling very self-confident at the time – and you probably felt even worse afterwards. Whatever the situation you’re in, make an effort to contribute. Even if you don’t think you have much to say, your thoughts and perspective are valuable to those around you.

　　By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

　　法门之十: 自动自动启齿

　　你是不是曾在一节大学讲堂或一次任务集会上干坐着一声不响?你是不是曾在伴侣们欢快地在早晨集会议论时单独盯着本身的饮料发愣?在这类时辰，信任你不会感受对本身很是自傲——乃至过后，你大要会感受更糟。不论你此刻处于哪一种状况，试着自动与人交换吧。即便你感受本身无话可说，可是，或许说出你的概念与观点，会使你四周的人获益匪浅呢。

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